Dirty Little Secret — Terry Crews Talks More About Guilt, Shame, Entitlement and Pornography Addiction
Terry Crews’ public confession of his porn addiction a few weeks ago has been getting a lot of attention on the Internet. Apparently he’s really struck a nerve. Recently, we published a video he posted on his Facebook page where he first addressed his struggle with pornography. Here’s a follow-up to that post featuring two more videos in a growing series published by Crews called “Dirty Little Secret.”
In “Dirty Little Secret 2,” Crews talks more about his path to recovery. He brings up the importance of overcoming the shame associated with the sin. In dealing with a porn addiction, or any other addiction, addressing guilt and getting rid of shame is essential to recovery.
Crew explains, “Guilt says, ‘You did a bad thing.’ Okay? Sometimes it’s good to feel guilty…because then you know you hurt somebody. But shame, shame doesn’t say you DID something bad, shame says you ARE bad. And, when you think and believe that you ARE bad, there’s no way out, there’s no way out. You say, you know what? Forget it. I might as well use drugs, I might as well overeat, I might as well use porn…If you believe you ARE bad, you act accordingly.” See what more Crews has to say about guilt and shame and how it relates to addiction in the video below:
In “Dirty Little Secret 3,” Crews examines how many men feel as though they are entitled to things such as sex and their actions are justified in trying to find it. This sense of entitlement, and the self-pity that comes with it, Crews says, allows men to act out and seek pornography to satisfy their denied needs.
Pornography and pornography addiction is a growing problem among Christian men. Unfortunately it is a subject that is often kept in the dark, one that many Christian men have difficulty discussing. A recent survey commissioned by Proven Men Ministries and conducted by Barna Group among a nationally representative sample of adult Christian adult men revealed some surprising statistics about the extent of the problem.
For Christian men (18 to 30 years old):
— 77% look at pornography at least monthly.
— 36% view pornography on a daily basis.
— 32% admit being addicted to pornography (and another 12 percent think they may be).
For Christian men (ages 31 to 49):
— 77% looked at pornography while at work in the past three months.
— 64% view pornography at least monthly.
— 18% admit being addicted to pornography (and another 8 percent think they may be).
Do you stuggle with pornography or addiction to pornograhy? You are not alone. Rest assured there are fellow strugglers all around you. Be sure to follow Terry Crews on Facebook as he continues to shine a light on the subject of pornography addiction.